Tuesday, February 7, 2012
Tell Me About Love
Alright world, this time I've got a kind of different direction. Valentine's is in a week and since I'm seasonly appropriate I'd like to look at one big aspect of most fiction, love. Over the next week I'll be asking people in person (and here) to tell me about love. The feelings it raises, how you know it's struck, when it dies, and any other tidbit about it. Describe your perfect woman (or man) and how they make you feel. I'm looking for descriptions that catch the emotions. Ideally I want to interview people in person, but if you want to write a short piece here feel free (you can post completely anonymously, I don't want to embarrass anyone). Once I have all the info then I'll play around with it and try to capture the feeling behind this universal emotion, and if people express interest then I'll post too. Also, if you talk to me in person, I'll give you a gift (that is not in anyway romantic). Thanks team!
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Love. Affection.
ReplyDeleteHeaven among men - Till the
bitter sweet end.
Fateful Yes
ReplyDeleteMy emotions are too intense to describe;
I could never explain the way I feel,
I've forgotten how to breathe as he takes my hand,
And before me, begins to kneel.
I gaze into his hopeful eyes
And feel his gentle grasp,
Time was held still all around,
Yet an eternity seemed to elapse.
Although he barely whispered the words,
In a delicate, loving voice,
They landed on my ears like a thunderstorm,
That ceases to await my choice.
I hated putting you in suspense,
But I lost ability to speak,
My heart had stopped altogether,
A tear rolled down my cheek.
I reached out and caressed his lovely face,
My decision I'd never second-guess,
Loving him so much it hurt,
I uttered my fateful, "Yes."
mmmmm
DeleteLove. To me love is caring about someone more than the average person, more than yourself. To me love never dies if it was true and deep down. It can be strengthened and weakened but never completely gone. I fell in love young and I am not with that person now. I still never doubted the fact though. I knew I was in love when I laid on the traintracks in Penn. Park with this person and we laid there for hours watching the clouds past on a nice fall day, when the grass was still pretty green but the leaves were as colorful as ever. The perfect person? Someone I can talk to about anything, be it stupid and unimportant or my deapest darkest secret. It has to be someone I can do absolutely nothing with and still feel like I am completely satisfied. Someone I can roll around the living room floor with (not even sexually) or make food with or dance with. Someone that doesn't care what they do as long as they are with me and I'd feel the same about them. Someone who can put up with me because I'm as difficult as they are. The person mentioned earlier...I know it hasn't died because sometimes when our eyes meet there is that little spark still there. That wonder. That feeling. Sorry this is so long. xP
ReplyDeleteDon't appologize! The more information you give me, the more I have to work with (there is no cutoff length for a reply, just write until you feel like you've said your piece). All of these contributions are excellent! I love any form of reply, the poem (or song?) is just as good as a regular post.
ReplyDeleteLove. To me love is most defiantly not the typical fairytale bull crap we are told when we are young. There is no prince charming who is perfect in every single way or that flawless princess whose beauty blinds the world. Love is a big horribly beautiful disaster that occurs when two people come together. Love is when you can be with that person without having to cover yourself in what you find to be socially acceptable in public (makeup, fashionable clothing, mannerism, etc.) Love is when a terrible fight can end quickly with the thought that you might lose that person. Love is when you see a highly attractive boy or girls pass you by and it doesn’t even faze you past a quick once over. Love is when even though you don’t have that person by your side, they still forever hold that spot in your heart. Love is ugly and beautiful in the same sentence. Perfectly imperfect as I sometimes say. One more thing, Love is not something that starts on a Monday and ends that Friday evening.
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ReplyDeleteMy short time in the dating scene has taught me that respect is the foundation of any solid relationship. Mutual respect allows for free communication and flow of ideas. Even when I'm angry, I never demean someone I respect, and I think that's key. If that foundation is present, individuality can blossom. When I'm with my current boyfriend, I never have any inhibitions. I can be as silly, as spacey, or as serious as I normally would if I were alone. In this case, we appreciate each other's authentic selves and not some idealized version.
ReplyDeleteWhile I don't believe life is all about finding a partner, I know from observation that it sure can be a great addition to the happiness one finds chasing their goals and dreams. A person should never derive their happiness from someone else, they should derive it from satisfying the passion they have inside. Love, in my eyes, is about two INDIVIDUALS coming together to SHARE their lives. I think people who claim they were "not complete" before they met someone... well I just think it's a tad silly. To be truly happy with someone, I think we must first be truly happy with ourselves.
Romance is a wonderful, wonderful thing and one of the miracles of human nature, but you can't love anyone else if you don't love yourself. Sometimes, that's hard to do, but goddamn it, it's worth it.
ReplyDeleteI spent quite a large portion of my Friday night lying in bed listening to relatively sad love songs. For some people the very idea of spending Valentine’s Day alone can force them into a sleeplike coma where all they can to is press the fast-forward button on their iPod to skip the songs that that could possibly brighten their mood. Song lyrics such as, “Baby, I’m yours, and I'll be yours until the sun no longer shines, yours, until the poets run out of rhyme, in other words, until the end of time,” are ever so cheesy, but in a way we are all looking for that someone who will say those words to us and mean it, with or without an acoustic guitar to accompany them.
ReplyDeleteDating in high school is, oh my god, far too stressful. It requires texting every night, but never talking on the phone or in person because the time you spend together in person is reserved specifically for making out. Also, you have to spend all of your time between classes holding each other like you aren’t going to see the other person ever again instead of in an hour. I do not want this quintessential relationship in any way, shape, or form. What I want is an intelligent boy with whom I can discuss science fiction novels and debate over whether the History or Discovery channel is better. We’d talk on the phone instead of texting and our time together would not be purely for making out, but instead for watching Ferris Bueller’s Day Off and listening to vinyl on my record player. This isn’t to say that I’m not the sappy romantic type because, trust me, I am! For example, I always cry while watching Disney movies. It doesn’t matter what movie it is, from Up to Beauty and the Beast it’s pretty much guaranteed that my eyes will at least water. Also, the book currently residing on my bedside table’s title is The Statistical Probability of Love at First Sight.
For the time being, all of my good friends are in relationships; this is a tough time in any girl’s life. She has to pretend that she’s interested in the type of flowers Anthony got Isabel and how big the teddy bear Sam got Megan is while longing for a boyfriend of her own. Most likely she has a crush on a certain boy, but is deathly afraid of rejection, as most people are. But if you’re like me, and your wingman is Alex Engelman, you’re pretty much set.
When you finally let yourself get up and listen to the happier songs on your IPod, Valentine’s Day becomes significantly less daunting. You’ll make it through, no matter how much ice cream and how many Disney movies it takes.
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ReplyDeletepretty much sums it up.
Love is when you like them more than their bullshit annoys you.
ReplyDeleteI dont understand what love is.. Especially at my school where everyone has a different "spouse" every other week. It is kinda of sad that I am 15 and I have never had a girl freind. I do not know if that is a good thing or not. But one thing is for sure, I could not love anyone at the school that I am going to currently and I cannot wait to move out and make my own way in life.
ReplyDeleteYou never understand how deeply you love someone until they are gone, or until the relationship, of whatever kind, is lost. That is the moment you realize how important and crucial that love was to you. I believe love is earned. True love is not only through a relationship with a partner, but through friends and families. The strongest forms of love result from close friendships. Love is only true when it is tested; true love is accomplished only when it overcomes whatever obstacles it may encounter. One of the most lasting forms of love is through your closest and best friends. True love is knowing all of someones flaws and faults, and excepting them anyway. Love is being able to be your true self, without the judgment of others. It is when someone understands you completely.
ReplyDeleteHmmm... love. Love is beautiful and perfect, yet painful and harsh. I've never dated anyone, and I'm almost 15, but to me that doesn't matter. I feel like high school os a huge pressure to date someone. For me, high school just feels like a time to have fun, a time to socialize and hang out with friends. Not to always have a boyfriend or girlfriend by your side. Not to be clung desparetly to a lover for five minutes in between classes. People put too much pressure on themselves to be dating someone now, now, NOW! Love takes time, and sometimes you have to wait. Maybe you are waiting for your crush who you adore to ask you out, maybe you are waiting for someone to steal your heart. IT DOESN"T MATTER who you are waiting for! You just have to have patience and enjoy high school how it is at this moment! Once high school years are gone, they are never coming back!
ReplyDeleteAnd if someone breaks your heart, get over it! You will find someone else who loves you even more. You make be broken hearted, but know that your family and friends love you and that you are going to be okay!
Live life to the fullest. Live... love... laugh!
I love you.
ReplyDeleteWhat really is love? Does anybody know? Many people claim to know, no matter what their age. For instance, kids in middle school and elementary school always feel like talking about their "relationships." What do they know though? They can never hang out with their significant other outside of school unless it's a field trip or someone's birthday party. They tend to think love is when you really like someone; a simple hug or holding hands automatically means you're a couple and that you are deeply in love. Obviously they like each other, but is what they have true love? A couple in high school might not even know what love is. Dinner at each other's houses and hanging out every night mixed with some make out sessions here and there is love? Frankly...I don't even know what life is. Granted I'm only 15, but still. I shouldn't know yet. The only moment a girl should absolutely positively know that she's in love, I feel, is during the proposal. In that one split second of decision, millions of thoughts run through her mind and the butterflies in her stomach go crazy. All the emotions multiply and still condence to one thought..."Do I really LOVE this guy?" In that moment, I feel, a person really figures it out and, finally, they now/feel what true love is.
ReplyDeleteLove is painful. You have no control of it and you have no control of who you fall in love with. This is not even covering the actual definition of what love really is. Every one has their oun diffenition of love. But I think that that moment you look into someones eyes, the feeling that you have a rock in your gut when you watch them leave. That is when you are truly in love, when you can not live with out that one person. Rachel Fedorko
ReplyDeleteWho says you can't have love at any age? You don't have to marry them, they don't have to be your soul mate, but if that person makes you happy then why shouldn't you be spending your time with them? Everyone has the right to be happy and and if surrounding yourself with love makes you happy then I don't see any reason why you can't fall in love early in life. Sometimes you get hurt, but that only makes you stronger. You have to get hurt to realize how strong you really are, then just get back up and keep moving forward.
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